Ndinabantwana abathathu abane-ADHD. Singaya esikolweni ekhaya, kodwa utshintsho olubuyela kulo naluphi na uhlobo lwesikolo luyinyani kwaye luyisiphithiphithi. Abantu kufuneka bavuke ngexesha elithile. Kufuneka batye isidlo sakusasa ngexesha elithile. Kufuneka banxibe iimpahla (oku kuye kwaba ngumba omkhulu emva kweCovid). Ukubeka phantsi iipilisi, ukuxubha amazinyo, ukudibanisa iinwele zakho, ukondla inja, ukuchola iimvuthuluka zesidlo sakusasa, ukucoca itafile, zonke ezi zinto zenziwe ngaphambi kokuba siqale isikolo.
Ngoko ndathumela iSOS kwabanye abazali abanabantwana abane-ADHD. Kwi-gobbledygook yorhwebo, ndifuna izisombululo zehlabathi lokwenyani kunye neengcebiso ezinokwenzeka. Ngokwembono yomzali, ndidinga uncedo olunzulu lokubuyisela ucwangco kumtyholi wam omncinci, ngakumbi xa kuvulwe isikolo (inyani: zidemon ezilambileyo). Kufuneka sibe nesiqhelo. Sifuna iodolo. Sifuna uncedo. izibalo.
Wonke umntu wathi bonke abantwana kufuneka benze umsebenzi wesiqhelo, emva koko ingqondo yam ivaleleke kancinci kuba andiyoncutshe kuwo (bona: Umama noTata bane-ADHD). Kodwa abantwana abane-ADHD ngokukhethekileyo bafuna ukwenza umsebenzi wesiqhelo. Banobunzima bokuzilawula nokuzeyisa—ngoko badinga ulawulo olungakumbi lwangaphandle, olufana nemigaqo nezakhiwo, ukubanceda bajamelane nobomi, indalo iphela, nayo yonke into. Emva koko, esi sakhiwo sibavumela ukuba babe nokuzithemba ukuze baphumelele kwaye bafunde ukuzenzela impumelelo, kunokuba bavumele abazali babo banyanzelise kubo.
UMelanie Grunow Sobocinski, isifundiswa, i-ADHD kunye nomqeqeshi wabazali, wabelane ngombono wengqondo kunye nomama wakhe ombi: ukwenza uluhlu lokudlala lwasekuseni. Wathi kwiblogi yakhe: "Ekuseni, sibeka ingoma yomxholo wokwanga ixesha, ukuvuka, ukubeka ibhedi, ukunxiba, ukukhanda iinwele, isidlo sakusasa, ukuxubha amazinyo, izicathulo kunye neengubo, kunye newashi yokuphuma. Ngokuhlwa, sinoobhaka, ukucoca, Ingoma yomxholo yokufiphalisa izibane, ukutshintsha iimpahla zokulala, ukuxukuxa amazinyo, kunye nokucima izibane. Ngoku, ingoma ayisakhathali, kodwa isigcina ngexesha. ” Yingqondo-ngqondo le, umntu ndicela amnike imbasa. Sele ndifolele ukumamela iingoma eSpotify. Oku kunengqiqo: abantwana abane-ADHD abafuni nje iindlela zesiqhelo, kodwa nolawulo lwexesha. Ingoma yakhelwe kuzo zombini ngexesha elinye.
URenee H. walatha kumama woyikekayo ukuba abantwana abane-ADHD “abanakuthelekelela imveliso yokugqibela.” Ngoko ucebisa imifanekiso. Okokuqala, "uthatha ifoto kubo nayo yonke into abayifunayo. Ukunxiba imaski, ukuthwala ubhaka, ukutya iibhokisi zesidlo sasemini, njl. Emva koko, wathi, "Ngobusuku obudlulileyo, icwangciswe ngokwepateni yegridi kwaye ukusuka kwiifoto zezinto ezinombolo ukusuka ekhohlo ukuya ekunene ukuphucula indlela ecwangcisiweyo." Abantwana bam bazakuyitya ngecephe le.
Abazali abaninzi baxelela oomama abakhohlakeleyo ukuba basebenzisa uludwe lokuhlola. UKristin K. waxhoma enye kwiladi yomntwana wakhe waza wayibeka enye kwigumbi lokuhlambela impahla. ULeanne G. ucebisa “uluhlu olufutshane nolunombhalo omkhulu”—ingakumbi ukuba abantwana bayabanceda bacinge ngeembono zabo. U-Ariell F. wambeka "emnyango, kwinqanaba lokubona." Usebenzisa iibhodi zokucima ezomileyo kunye neziphawuli zokucima ezomileyo kwizinto eziphuma kanye, ngelixa iSharpies isetyenziselwa imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla.
U-Anne R. uxelele umama okhohlakeleyo ukuba wasebenzisa i-Alexa ukuseta izikhumbuzo: "Unyana wam useta i-alarm ukuze avuke, anxibe iimpahla, athathe ibhegi, apakishe izinto, izikhumbuzo zomsebenzi wesikolo, izikhumbuzo zexesha lokulala-yonke into iyinyani." UJess B. Sebenzisa isibali-xesha sabo ukunceda abantwana bakhe bazi ukuba lingakanani ixesha eliseleyo kwimisebenzi ethile.
UStephanie R. waxelela lo mama woyikekayo ukuba babesele beqhelisela ucwangciso. Asiyonkqubo yakusasa nje—abantwana bakhe batya ngokucothayo, banesiqingatha seyure kuphela sesidlo sasemini, ngoko sele beqalisile ukusebenza nzima. Abazali babantwana abane-ADHD bafanele baqwalasele imiqobo kwangaphambili, njengokungabi naxesha lesidlo sasemini elaneleyo, nto leyo esenokuyonakalisa rhoqo imini yomntwana. Ziziphi iingxaki aza kuba nazo umntwana wam, yaye yintoni esinokuqhelisela ngayo ngoku?
Abazali abaninzi bathi babezilungiselele kubusuku obungaphambili izinto, kuquka iimpahla. UShannon L. wathi: “Lungisa izinto ezifunekayo kwangethuba-njengezinto zemidlalo. Qinisekisa ukuba zonke iiyunifomu zihlanjiwe kwaye zipakishe izixhobo kwangethuba. Uloyiko lomzuzu wokugqibela aluzukusebenza.” Ukuhlela iimpahla-kwanokulala-Kuluncedo kubazali abaninzi. Ndilungisa iibhrashi zamazinyo zabantwana ngentlama yamazinyo kusasa ukuze bazibone xa bengena kwigumbi lokuhlambela.
Abantwana abane-ADHD nabo abanako ukuziqhelanisa kakuhle notshintsho lwesakhiwo. Xa kuvela iimeko ezahlukahlukeneyo, kuhle ukulungiselela ezininzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka. U-Tiffany M. waxelela lo mama woyikekayo, “Soloko ubalungiselela imisetyenzana kunye nemisitho. Yiba namava ngeemeko ezinokuthi zenzeke ukuze ubuchopho babo bukwazi ukulungiselela iimeko ezingalindelekanga kangangoko kunokwenzeka.”
Abazali abaninzi babonisa indlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana abane-ADHD abalambanga, abanxanwanga okanye badinwe. Ngenxa yokuba benobunzima bokuzilawula, ukuwohloka kwabo kuhlala kunomtsalane ngakumbi kunabanye abantwana (ubuncinci abantwana bam). Umyeni wam ngungqondongqondo onokuyikhumbula le nto. Ukuba omnye wabantwana bethu uqalisa ukungaqhubi kakuhle, uya kuqala abuze: “Ugqibele nini ukutya? Ugqibele nini ukutya?” (URachel A. ubonisa indlela ekubaluleke ngayo ukubandakanya iprotheni ekumgangatho ophezulu kuzo zonke izidlo zabo). Waphinda wathi: “Usele ntoni namhlanje?” URachel ukwalathe indlela ekuyimfuneko ngayo ukucoceka kokulala kakuhle kubantwana abane-ADHD.
Phantse wonke umntu uxelela oomama abakhohlakeleyo ukuba abantwana abane-ADHD bafuna umthambo. Naxa behamba bejikeleza indlu okanye behamba nenja, abantwana kufuneka bahambe-ngokukhethekileyo ngezakhiwo ezimbalwa kangangoko. Ndajula abantwana bam emva kwendlu kunye ne-trampoline yabo kunye nokukhwela okukhulu (siwongekile ukuba sibe nabo bonke) kwaye sivumele nantoni na engazange ibuhlungu ngabom emzimbeni. Oku kuquka ukugrumba imingxuma emikhulu uze uyigcwalise ngamanzi.
UMeghan G. uxelele umama okhohlakeleyo ukuba usebenzisa amanqaku angasemva-kwaye wawabeka apho abantu banokuwaphatha khona, njengamaqhosha eminyango kunye neetephu, okanye nedeodorant yomyeni wakhe. Uthe kusenokwenzeka ukuba bababone ngolu hlobo. Kusenokufuneka ndiphumeze oku ngoku.
UPamela T. unombono olungileyo onokusindisa wonke umntu kwiingxaki ezininzi: Abantwana abane-ADHD badla ngokuphulukana nezinto. "Kumngeni womsebenzi olawulayo wezinto ezilahlekileyo-ndibeka ithayile kuyo nayiphi na into yexabiso (ubhaka, ibhokisi yesithethi, izitshixo). Ndibone ukujika kwexilongo lakhe kwibhasi yesikolo izihlandlo eziliqela!” (Wena Ukucofa endikuvayo kukuba ndiodola iithayile. Iithayile ezininzi).
U-Ariell F. uxelele umama okhohlakeleyo ukuba ubeke "ingobozi" emnyango kunye nezinto eziyimfuneko zomzuzu wokugqibela ezihlala zilityalwa okanye enze kwakhona amanyathelo akusasa (imaski eyongezelelweyo, ibrashi yeenwele ezongezelelweyo, izosulwa, i-sunscreen , iikawusi, igranola, njl.)…Ukuba uqhubela umntwana wakho esikolweni, ubeka ibrashi yamazinyo eyongezelelekileyo, ibrashi yeenwele nezinto zokosula emotweni.” Qinisekisa ukuba yonke into ayiphumi kulawulo ngomzuzu wokugqibela!
Abantwana bam baya kuzithanda ezi zinto! Ndiyathemba ukuba umntwana wakho one-ADHD uya kuxhamla kuyo njengomntwana wam. Ngeengcebiso ezinje, ndiziva ndizithembile ngakumbi xa ndingena kunyaka wesikolo-baya kuwenza (ongekhoyo) umsebenzi wethu wemihla ngemihla ube mtyibilizi.
Sisebenzisa iikuki ukuqokelela ulwazi olusuka kwisikhangeli sakho ukwenza umxholo ulungele wena kwaye senze uhlalutyo lwesayithi. Ngamanye amaxesha, sikwasebenzisa iikuki ukuqokelela ulwazi malunga nabantwana abancinci, kodwa leyo yinto eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ndwendwela umgaqo-nkqubo wethu wabucala ngolwazi oluthe kratya.
Ixesha lokuposa: Aug-31-2021